Thank you for reaching out and for your kind comments. I love the synchronicity of your comment. One of the teachers that has had a huge influence on me is Gordon Neufeld and his work with attachment parenting. Gordon is a co-author and good friend of Gabor.

You are wise and spot on regarding self-soothing. So much of what I have felt challenged with – particularly as a very sensitive being – is soothing myself. A beautiful reminder.

I love hearing about your freedom from sugar. I celebrate with you.

XO, Karly

XO

Thank you for your comment and your kind words.

I can relate to so much of what you wrote. I have a sensitive digestive system, too. It has been hard for my mind to accept that there are many, many foods that I can’t eat – can’t in the sense that if I eat them, I am choosing pain and suffering – physical pain, emotional pain or spiritual pain. (Just this morning my stomach hurts from eating brown rice last night with dinner…another learning experience.)

I am sensitive to gluten too. Most grains as well. I don’t eat much dairy aside from kefir, and I don’t eat sugar. So it’s very easy for me to spin off in a spiral of, “It’s not fair! I’m so deprived. My life is so hard,” because I’m not eating the variety of foods that “normal” people eat. And when I’m in this space, I turn into a victim, and I feel sorry for myself, and I say screw it and hurt myself by eating the very foods that cause me pain.

I also get how the mind can justify, “I don’t have a problem,” because there aren’t any glaring outward signs that demonstrate this. I hid my food stuff for years under the guise of, “I’m not that overweight.”

And on and on.

I am so glad you found us here, and the other women who are a part of First Ourselves. We would love to share your journey of health and wholeness with you.

When my life falls apart, I try and accept that it is falling apart for a reason, that all the pain and suffering is meant as a gift, to help me, to bring to light what needs to be healed and then to do the steps necessary to facilitate my healing. Even though I may rant and rave and rail against this.

As we say in the overeating and sugar courses, love the teacher – your food and sugar struggles – even when you want to throw it across the room.

The universe has its arms spread wide open for you. Dive in.

XO, Karly

I just discovered your site today in preparing to go off sugar. In the past year, I had crazy medical problems that culminated in surgical complications that almost destroyed my intestines. I was encouraged to follow a strict gluten and dairy free diet and start eating meat. This was a huge transition for me, and I did not always follow it faithfully. I committed to the gluten and dairy free part fully a little over six weeks ago, and going off sugar is the next part.

I have had a really difficult year (my marriage also fell apart when I got ill, I lived in several states, new temporary job, looking for new job, the list could go on…). How have I handled it? Sugar binges. Like your raisin story, I’d tell myself, “it’s vegan,” or “it’s agave,” or whatever. I am active and thin, so on the surface it appears that I don’t have a problem. However, my moods are uncontrollable, and I reach for multiple healthy treats in a row.

In addition to helping me with the food part of things, your post and the comments that followed are miracles. I recently received spiritual guidance to embrace my feminine, and your above comment was a sign.

This was a really lengthy comment, but a huge thanks for putting yourself out there. If your program is anything near as helpful to me as this post, I will be a very lucky woman.

All Blessings.
Michelle

Tony